Just a List of Complaints

If you thought this was a catchy click bait title that sneakily was something other than really, truly a list of complaints – I’m sorry. This is the maybe one time I am being 100% literal. (Note to everyone still yelling at me over Christian Men in Tank Tops: please Google “satire”, thank you.)

In church on Sunday we were talking about how to go from “hurt” to “hallelujah”; how we get from “horrible” to “hallelujah”. It was a beautiful, inspiring message that I’m not going to attempt to summarize because, dang. You had to be there. Lucky for you it’s 2017, and it will be online for your viewing pleasure soon (heyyyy diveintoflood.com).

We were challenged with the idea of complaining – with confidence in Christ. As in, we need to be okay with complaining. We need to call it like it is, admit life isn’t always rainbow and sunshine. We need to bring honesty to God just as easily as we bring praises. Buuut we also need to do so with confidence in who Christ is. We need to complain knowing the fullness of the God we serve, the goodness He promises. Read More

Alone? Or Lonely?

I was sitting by myself, with two strangers on either side of me. Not quite in the mood to make conversation, I simply sipped my drink and glanced around the room. The friend I had just been chatting with had gotten up to talk to someone, the only other person I knew was busy. Was I alone? Oh, yes. But was I lonely? Not so much.n0pqessfyiu-neha-deshmukh

It’s the cliche “worst time of the year to be single”. Basically every Hallmark movie ever bemoans the poor unfortunate soul who’s dateless during the holidays, and by The O.C.’s logic, “how you spend New Year’s Eve is how you’ll spend the rest of the year” (…aka heaven help you if it’s ALONE). Although holiday gatherings can be awkward to walk into alone (again and again and again) and your office Christmas party without a plus one sounds daunting (I wouldn’t know, I “had to” miss mine for a family reunion this year!), hear me loud and clear: being alone doesn’t necessarily mean you’re lonely. Read More

“But WHY Are You Single??”

As weddings have taken up so much of my life lately, I figured maybe they should take up a lot of my blog as well. Here’s a special wedding season series – some questions I get asked (or ones I don’t), some things I survived, some truths I’ve been learning. And, an extra bonus: one very special wedding!


At any group event where there’s lots of mingling with strangers, there’s this fun moment that typically happens to me. Weddings, especially. Sometimes I do a countdown, in my head, for the exact moment, because I can always see it coming.

At some prior point, word’s gotten out that I’m single, and I see the judgement in some people’s eyes, the surprise in others, the assumptions being made. I’m used to it. Whatever. But then, as conversation continues on, as we spend more time together, they start to speak – stop – hesitate, and I know it’s coming.

“Okay, I have to ask… WHY are YOU single?”

I laugh. I smile. I look at the floor. Because there’s just sooo many ways to answer, so many directions to go with this one.

“Well….” Read More

Watching All Your Friends Get Married…

As weddings have taken up so much of my life lately, I figured maybe they should take up a lot of my blog as well. Here’s a special wedding season series – some questions I get asked (or ones I don’t), some things I survived, some truths I’ve been learning. And, an extra bonus: one very special wedding!


“Is it hard hanging out with so many couples??” This is the question I get asked, year round. But during wedding season, it morphs into something else:

“What’s it like being the token single friend among spouses?”

“How does it feel for all your friends to get married before you?”

“What’s it like to watch all your friends married??”

What is it like? How does it feel? Let me let you in on the biggest secret of Krysti’s Wedding Season 2016: normal. Read More

SINGLE-handedly Surviving Wedding Season (Again)

As weddings have taken up so much of my life lately, I figured maybe they should take up a lot of my blog as well. Here’s a special wedding season series – some questions I get asked (or ones I don’t), some things I survived, some truths I’ve been learning. And, an extra bonus: one very special wedding!


“Saturday is opening day!!”

“Opening day for what?” my friend texted back.

“Krysti’s Wedding Season 2016.”

It’s been a running joke with my friends, how many weddings I keep getting invited to. Every time I say “Oh, I can’t that day! I have a wedding” or “I’ll be out of town that weekend, I have a friend’s wedding” the reply is typically “of course you do”.

It’s funny to me, because I know some people who are invited to way more. It’s funny to me, because people assume I’m just so popular (promise, I’m not). It’s funny to me, because it’s the exact same place I was in last summer: 7 invitations, 5 attendances, 0 dates. Soo, same time next year? Read More

Dressember 21: Things We Need to Stop Saying to Singles

For the month of December – in honor of Dressember – I’ll be blogging everyday! Thoughts on anything from fighting for justice to feminism, from dresses I’m wearing to books I’m reading, and everything in between. 


It’s officially that time of year again. Nights are spent cuddled up together on the couch. Weekends involve dates to the ice skating rink. Stressing about what you’re going to get each other for Christmas / how to hide it from each other / when to even buy it because you do all your Christmas shopping together, obviously. Except, of course, if you’re single.

If you’re single, it’s officially that time of year again. The Instagrams of cute couples increase tenfold (yes, we see you in front of that Christmas tree, GET A NEW POSE). The Christmas cards start rolling in – showing off families on vacation or newlyweds at the alter. And you are forced to attend oh-so-many holiday gatherings filed with oh-so-many couples.

Okay, sarcasm aside, being single during the holidays isn’t the worst thing in the world. I really hate how we keep believing these lies about how we have to hate singleness during certain times of the year. Valentines Day? Oh, you poor thing. Wedding season?! God help you. THE HOLIDAYS?!?? Your life is over. I have lost track of the cheesy Christmas movies (which I love, no shame) that involve a plot line of the desperate single at Christmas, the lonely, unfulfilled person flying solo at New Years, the depressing, never ending walk in the snow some people have to make alone. Please, continue to tell me how a relationship will solve all my problems, Hallmark channel. Read More